Congratulations! You're Still Single.

When I started writing this post the first line I initially wrote was "I don't want to be alone, but I am". As you can see, I deleted it. It felt like an attempt to be open and vulnerable, but it just wasn't true. I'm not alone. I've never been alone. From a spiritual perspective, I have a God who is also a Father, a Friend and who literally lives in me. Alone isn't an option that I have to be concerned about. But also from a very practical perspective, I am blessed with the most amazing support network any girl could ask for. I have friends, both single and married, that build me up in every area of my life and encourage me to a better person. And then there's my family, my wonderful, fantastic, amazing family. I won't start gushing about my family, but I'll happily repeat what I always say. They are my favourite people on the face of this earth. So I am definitely not alone.

The accurate version of my opening line should have said, "I don't want to be single, but I am". I know what you're thinking, "what does "Miss Living Single and Loving It" mean by "I don't want to be single"? What I'm trying to say is that this was not the plan. Do I absolutely love my life even though I didn't get a ring on my finger in line with society's timeline? Yes. I am blessed and highly favoured. I am so blessed and so fulfilled that it surprises me.


However, that doesn't mean that this is the path I would have chosen for myself. The plan was never to be single at 28. When most girls plan out their life, especially little Yoruba girls, we don't picture heading into our late twenties without even a boyfriend let alone a ring. For some of us the plan worked out and for some of us, it didn't. And that's okay. In fact, it's more than okay. It's the best thing that could ever happen to us because I'd rather be in God's plan than in mine. So for those of you that are single and praying for a spouse, congratulations on your single season and on having a God that is gracious enough to let His plans override your own. 

This post has been interesting for me to write. In writing this post, I discovered what I wanted to say as the pads of fingers tapped across the screen. I hope this has blessed you and if you want to hear me talk more about how I really feel about my singleness and marriage, then check out the video below. As always, thanks for letting me share my heart with you. It's greatly appreciated!




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